Autism & comfort
Why is it so hard for my son to use the tools and equipment he has to help him?
He refuses to use fidgets
He refuses to use chews
He refuses to use weight vest
He refuses to use weight blankets
He refuses to use compression shirts
He opts to use power cords and ink pens to chew on
He opts to use anything other than the things he has to help him
Is it defiant behavior?
Is it too complicated?
Is it because he knows it's the right thing to do and refuses to do it?
The answer is yes to all of the above
He just does what's comfortable to him, even if his comfort is putting himself in danger
I spend so much time trying to convince him to use his equipment instead of using random things that will ultimately hurt him
It's so frustrating because I want him to stimm, just in a safe way
But he refuses
He refuses it all
I've gotten to the point of just giving up because it's too much
It's too stressful
I've tried everything I can think of
And when I think I finally got through to him
He's right back to doing the same things over again
It's like he can't retain what's right or wrong
He only retains what's comfortable to him
This is going to be a major problem when he's older
Because comfort isn't always safe
Comfort isn't always legal
His desire to be comfortable outweighs anything and everything
And that is going to cause major problems for him
So how do I solve this problem?
There is no definite answer
Only the hope that he'll eventually realize he needs to find comfort in the appropriate ways