I am untangling struggles with insecurity, codependency, and people-pleasing to become secure finally.

... I developed an “anxious-insecure” attachment style with a dash of codependency and people-pleasing. I have acted immaturely, anxiously, and manipulatively in many romantic relationships. I failed on my journey to love. But I am learning some powerful lessons.

Many of us grew up in judgmental, dysfunctional childhoods. In response, we developed unhelpful coping mechanisms to survive... 

I wrote about how I:

  • Practice setting boundaries

  • Prioritize being unapologetically me

  • Pour into self-acceptance

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Photo credit: Unsplash, Allef Vinicius


A few responses:

Almas: "I got goosebumps reading this article, and I could feel every word reflecting through my whole life. I am going through the same transformation and it can be exhausting. Bravo for the strong words!"

Janay Wright: "Thank you for this beautifully vulnerable article and for living the words that you've written above!"

Michelle Jaqua: "Allison, this is a fantastic article. So much wisdom in your words. Thank you."