Google has countless explanations as to why you struggle with goal-setting. To be sure, I have found myself on the odd occasion seeing for myself as to why I seem to struggle hitting my own goals.

Whilst many articles would say things like:
-your goals are too big
-there’s not a strong enough why behind them
-it’s not something tangible-

I’d like to propose something else in this blog post today.

It’s something of a hidden, tricky little thing that stops you from setting goals in the first place, let alone goals that you achieve.

If you find that you’re willing to just ballpark it and say ‘whatever happens, happens, whatever is meant to be, will be’, chances are it’s a subconscious response to protecting yourself from not getting hurt when you don’t achieve those goals.

As a result, you’re less likely to put as much effort in, your focus will be elsewhere, and you’re going to continue finding ‘safety’ in the lack of success that you are seeing by not achieving your goals.

Let me delve into it further:

Our subconscious mind wants to protect us.

Everything it does is to keep you safe- even if doing so means you continue lazing about, self-sabotaging and getting involved in drama.

I don’t know about you, but one of the biggest ‘disappointments’ you might feel in your life is falling short or not achieving your goals.

Not only do you deal with said disappointment, but you also deal with the pitiful looks from those around you and the reminders that you didn’t achieve your goals. Chances are that you’ve experienced a moment in the past where you haven’t achieved something and someone made a comment which made you feel something of shame or embarrassment.

From my own personal experience, I did this for years (I’d say the past 2 years in particular).

Whilst I have major, long-term goals, I struggled hitting the stepping stones. Once I got honest with myself, I realised it was because I didn’t want to have to deal with the emotions of not achieving those goals. If I didn’t hit those goals, my subconscious would think it would mean I would never achieve my ‘big goals’.

It doesn’t quite work like that.

Here’s what I did to go from being terrified of setting goals, to, well, not.
1. Recognise why you’re not setting your goals.
2. Get honest with yourself about your past triggers for why your subconscious makes you think and act in such a way.
3. Rewrite my mindset about it. Get rid of the plotline that says I didn’t achieve my goal, and write one where I do.
4. Set the goals and have unwavering faith in them.
5. Repeat as necessary.

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