As we enter February, and remembrance of love starts to surface in every outlet I wanted to wright about divine love and the many teachings of love and lessons I have learned through my own self-love healing journey. Or a path back to wholeness, I should say, and the many twists and turns that this path initiates us through. Many of us are only shown a side of love or are taught a certain way to love thus making us close up to love. This can make us forget that love is always and always will be the beginning or the start of something. We are born into this world already searching and wanting to feel love because if you have read any NDE (near death experience) experiences and or experienced a type of spiritual energy in where it allows us to feel "that" unconditional love of the creator and realize it is a feeling we want to feel again. We know how it feels to be loved unconditionally through these experiences and coming into this world in where it can be so cruel and confusing can make us forget this divine love feeling. I guess these experiences are meant to trigger us into coming back home as many describe heaven or these spiritual experiences as having feelings of pure unconditional love.
If you're currently telling yourself "I don't think I've experienced this" you can tap into this divine love through the means of mediating on this divine energy found in your heart chakra, praying and or communing with a divine spirit, surrendering yourself to the divine mother, etc. These type of spiritual experiences shifts and activates something with in us in where it pushes us to search for it here on earth in where many call this "heaven on earth" or to somehow return back home to yourself as you are part of the creator thus carrying this divine love already within you. If you remember I stated in the beginning that everything starts from love, and you are that spark of this divine love that formed a new life. And if you have already felt this feeling than you know what I'm talking about!
The Beginning Stage:
In the beginning we automatically search for our mother's skin and nipple so we can feel safe and comforted by her as we are born into a stimulated world that feels more than the feelings of love. This instant connection creates a bond with our mother because we know that we can receive that unconditional love, in which we came from, through her no matter what we do or get into. Although sometimes this is not the case for many of us, we intuitively try to find this love connection through others. Again, so we can feel loved and comforted as it can sometimes become scary to feel anything else than love. These beginning stages are very important in our early evolution as humans because love is what guides us and although love can also be misguided, they still shape us into the person we become later on in our lives.
I was born on Oct 7 because my mom was in labor for 7 days hence my birthday being on the 7th. I sometimes believe it took her so long to deliver me because my spirit knew what it would encounter and was scared to leave home it was scared of leaving this love feeling behind. I had a very troubled childhood being born from a broken 15-year-old girl who had to leave her home behind in Mexico and migrate to the states carrying her 5-month-old baby. I grew up not having the love of my absent father and my very young hard working migrant mother as I can never really remember a time in where she ever hugged me, loved me, or ever expressed love towards me and if she did, I believe I was very young to remember. I have now realized that she didn't do this because she didn't love me or wanted me but because she wasn't shown or given love either and it's not her fault as she loved me to the best of her capability even if it haunted me for many years.
The Middle Stages:
There comes a time in where we find ourselves leaving the nest behind and start a search and although this "search" can look different for everyone we still are in search of something. I feel like during our middle stages is where we learn the most and encounter the most lessons. I believe this because that's when we start to understand choices and the consequences of our choices even if we don't learn from them in this stage. I like to call this the "disconnection effect" or "cutting the umbilical cord effect" as we seem to disconnect ourselves from the "womb", our mother, from that real divine love even if it's not coming from a literal mother figure. When we disconnect ourselves from this bond, we start attracting karmic love and chase love that is considered to be fake even coming from friends we believe to be our soul family or connections that will last forever. I think we can all attest to having our hearts broken at a point of our lives even if it doesn't come from a romantic connection as people like to say our parents are our first love and yet they're the first ones to teach us about love. During these times is when divine forces like to help us return back to innocence back to when we remembered what we are made of, pure divine love.
In my middle stages I experienced a lot of trial and errors and became pregnant at 18 and although I was still leaving at home and still in high school. I thought this was my only way out at the time and thought that if I became pregnant, I would be able to be free and finally live the life I wanted. I did end up leaving the nest and after the birth of my daughter I became pregnant again a few months later and that's when I started to experience many toxic cycles in my love life. After a couple years I ended up leaving behind this toxic and abusive relationship and although it took me a long time to realize that that wasn't love and because I seen and experience it first-hand in my childhood didn't mean I had to experience it too. After this connection I did experience a lot more karmic love connections as well as friends because I was always in search of love or playing the mother role in all the wrong ways instead of searching within. It wasn't up until 5 years ago (and I'm 30 this year) that I started searching with in. This journey within is what has helped me remember this divine love and remember that it's the love I was always searching for. My healing journey was tough, but I always had this divine love inside of me I just needed to look inside and everything I experienced was just another shove to go with in and stop searching for it outside of me.
Ending Stage:
This ending stage is what we call "divine union", and this is not in reference to a romantic way but more of inner divine union. The ending stage is when you have finally cut yourself out of these lessons and cycles that love can put us through. The divine always hopes and strives for us to get to this stage in our life's although many fail to awaken to this divine love and can stay stuck in the middle stages. If you would have a conversation with an elder whose about to pass or someone whose had a NDE and asked them what they wish they did more in their life they would say LOVE every time. Most of the time they regret and wished they could've loved more or spread love more because they understand that we are here to have a human experience of heaven on earth and to experience love through all our 6th senses. " If it's not alright at the end than it is not the end" When we manifest a union within, we can than manifest a divine union without and allow this inner union to be mirrored in a form of a soulmate connection.
I'm currently in my inner divine union phase with hopes of attracting a divine counterpart in the future. However, this is the integration period in where your inner feminine and masculine, regardless of gender, integrate to become one in inner divine union. You can view this as sacred marriage just how it happens in the outside world because you understand that you must become one to be in domestic harmony and union. When you are in inner union you are able to be in balance and have your reality manifest this balance as you will no longer see the feminine and masculine at war in your relationships. When you nor your connections have inner union there's a high possibility to have "marital problems" in where one or both can't express their emotions in a healthy safe space because they have been wounded by love. Love is patient, Love is kind, Love is compassionate, Love is the answer, Love is listening, Love is empathy, Love is burnability, Love is authentic, Love is truth! They say love is the only real emotion everything else is just a reflection of our wounds that have not been loved or shown love in any form that I mentioned above.
Knowing the different kinds of "love":
Karmic Love: You can say that Karmic love is the most painful and the stickiest relationships we can encounter because these connections are literally like the gum under our shoes the hardest to remove and to let go. These karmic connections always carry important lessons of self-love and value and can encounter these to remind us of what we could have lost along the way because we can sometimes lose ourselves in connections because you try to integrate yourself with something outside of you instead of within. These connections can also be very sexual but missing the balance of the emotional bond.
Family, Friends, and Lovers can carry these karmic bonds.
Soulmate Love: Soulmates usually have an instant connection or remembrance of one another, however, please note that sometimes although there is a deep connection or remembrance, they can also carry karmic lessons this is why inner union is so important to be able to recognize this. I have encountered this before reason why I am mentioning it as I've learned a great lesson from this. Just because they're soulmates doesn't mean you're both on the same spiritual level or meant to be together in this life.
-Googles Definition- What makes someone a soulmate?
The term “soulmate” implies a special affinity, understanding, or powerful bond that exists between one person and another. The ineffable experience of being known by and knowing another lends itself to the mythical image of soulmates as two wandering souls finally reuniting.
Family, Friends, Pets, and Lovers can be soulmates
Twin Flame Love: There is a theory in where a twin flame is considered to be your "mirrored soul" or a soul that has been split into two different bodies. These connections are said to be very intense that they can even experience telepathy I mean why wouldn't they right if they're practically the "same" soul. Twin Flames carry heavy sexual energy but are meant to bring life changing lessons of growth in order to have inner union and come together in the 3D aspect. These connections are said to experience these lessons at the same time only in different ways because of this mirror energy that they carry thus always aiming for union as their purpose. Soulmates are naturally compatible and are often perfectly suited to one another while twin flames are meant to encourage growth and awareness in the other. Twin Flame energy is sometimes recognized as the "runner" and "chaser" energy in the early stages of first encounter within the twin flames as this encounter seems to trigger these transformative events as they each have to go through on their own at first.
usually romantic and sexual and can sometimes be of the same sex it is both challenging and healing
Divine Love: This love is meant to feel pure and effortless like the love you feel when you are praying to your god or like the feelings you get when you first touch water or feel the sand in your feet for the first time. Divine love helps us understand that our circumstances are not a product of us but a product of our cycles in our life's. Divine love loves without judgement and is connected with everything.
In conclusion, I hope that this passage may have helped you change your views about love and what you could have gone through in life and see it with love to be able to release it with love. With love anything can be forgiven as love can win any war!
It is easier to hate than it is to love.
written with love,
Ana Rios | Charmed Wisdom