Do Expectations belong in a marriage or any relationship?
I implore you to read and understand this article about expectations. Expectations, if applied in the wrong directions will and can ruin any relationship. What most people get mixed up in the beginning of relationships is where to apply and expect expectations.
Are you suppose to expect that a person sees you because you decide that you are going to walk across the street? Or are you suppose to expect a certain behavior from yourself? If you are expecting, and the baby is due soon, do you expect anything from the baby? Or do you prepare and expect from yourself what the baby will need? I am pretty sure that you expect from yourself. Expecting from yourself is the way in which all relationships should be approached.
When you pay attention to life, you can never really expect anything from anyone because all people see life differently. Education and understanding are different. So, all expectations should come from yourself. When you expect from self you learn self. The greatest knowledge any man or woman can have and will have is knowledge of self. Because yourself is your own world, so continue to build your world, expect from self.
Relationships is the same as merging, no one can just have it all their way. But now this is what this world is beginning to teach. This is a disastrous teaching to try to apply to your life. Different worlds merge and become one without any expectation from the other. Each world say to itself, I am not trying to change you, and I expect nothing from you. If I am for you and with you, you will come to me so that we can make one. If you have not read my article on “When Two Hearts Meet” please do so. When Two Hearts Meet explains how to know when you have met the person with your same energy frequency.
When you go into another atmosphere expecting sunshine and you get rain, will you get angry? Why did you expect sunshine? Do you know how to get sunshine? If you answer no to these questions. Then how can you expect a person to give you sunshine. You have to know what gives you sunshine and then understand how to make sunshine so that it can be enjoyed first by you and then the other person you wanted it from. Once you learn how to create what you want for yourself, the other person will learn and will start to give you sunshine instead of rain. Just remember no matter how small the pebble is that you throw into the pond it will create ripples. Does the water have expectations from the pebble? The answer is no. Water only has expectations from itself. So, in expecting from self it does not get angry with the pebble. This is why it is said that life is a give and take, but this saying must be looked at and understood in proper context. The saying know yourself and others fits so well here.
God does not expect. God desires for us good, but He does not force good on us. He want us to choose good because in choosing good we are choosing Him. But He does not expect. He does not have to because he knows all. It is not that we will know all. We are in the process of growing, developing, and learning. Look at babies, babies don’t expect. They grow, develop and learn. They expect from themselves without even knowing what expectations are. This is why God require us to come as babies to Him because as babies we are willing to learn and He can imprint himself onto us.
So, go into relationships desiring from our other half. Desire is much more applicable in any relationship.